Thursday, June 23, 2016

Don't be sorry for us.

Since Dominic's diagnosis I have always been really open about the fact that he is autistic. It's apart of who he is and there's nothing wrong with that. A huge part of my life has become advocating for him, making sure he's treated fairly, and trying to help people understand a little bit about autism.

Most people I meet are interested in learning a bit about him and autism, others don't have much to say which is absolutely fine, and then there are the people who tell me how sorry they are for me or for him. While I'm aware they mean no harm by this statement it is one that bothers me the most. Autism is no walk in the park, it is stressful, exhausting, and there are some days that I just don't know how we will make it through but these things are not all that autism. It is also fascinating and awe inspiring. It's showed me how strong people can be, how strong my son is.

Everyday he gets up ready to face the day no matter what challenges he faced the day before. He is eager to learn knew things, let me tell you if I had a nickel for every time that kid asked a question I'd be rubbing elbows with the likes of Bill Gates and Warren Buffett. Everyday I watch him try and understand the world around him, no matter how frustrating or scary it may be he never gives up. To see his face light up when something finally clicks is one of the most amazing things I have ever been fortunate enough to witness.

Everyday I wake up I feel lucky that I get to be Dominic's mother, that I get to go on this terrifying yet wonderful journey with him. There is an innocence about him that he will never lose and that's a beautiful thing especially with all the hurt and hatred we have in this world. He has taught me so much in the short time he has walked this earth and there is no doubt in my mind that he has made me a better person. I really hit the lottery when the universe blessed me with this child so don't feel sorry for me and don't feel sorry for him because he's got this you just wait and see.

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